Wednesday positivity.

Your day starts in a way you want it to be. Your day ends in a way you wanted it to end. It's no one else but you who is the maker of your destiny and the ruler of your life.

Stop blaming others for having the bad day. It was you who let the power of your life slips from your hand and let it be in the hands of someone unworthy. The people and incidents can affect you only if you let them affect you. 

Don't give that power to rule you to someone who doesn't deserve it. People are judgemental so let them judge you and form an opinion about you. How their opinion can change what you really are? 

If your yesterday was bad, make it good today. If it was good make it far better today. Start your day with a goal, no matter how small that goal is. You are doing it for yourself and  not for others. It can be anything, as small as, cleaning a kitchen shelves or ironing or going to a local grocery shop. If you have free time spend it on laughing with your loved ones rather than crying what other want you to do and how you are unable to do that. 

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End of one more dream.

While Scrolling down my FB page, a TOI's news caught my attention. It reads 17 year old farmer's son killed self, Kota. He failed his medical entrance examination. 

Kota is famous for giving most IITians, Medicals and other engineering students. But now it is also getting infamous as hub for more and more suicides. I was disturbed to learn the number of suicides which took place last year was 18. This year this is 6th case and the results just got declared. 

We read such news, feel bad about it offer our sympathies to the deceased family and then get back to our normal life. If we can learn something from these incidents, we can put end to it. We might be able to prevent young dreams from fading. 

We as a parent have to understand and learn to respect the freedom of choice our children wants to make. Learn to accept the fact that our child is human being first then he is our child. When we have chosen to give birth to him we have to give him the power to live as he wants to live. We have to befriend them rather than be the dictator of their lives. Hear them, offer them advice and make them understand the impact of their decision. Let them learn because anyway we will not be there always to hold their hands.

These young minds don't need dictators they need a platform where they can be vocal too. Develop that platform where opinions are shared rather than decision imposed. 

Every child is unique and have different abilities. Not everyone is born to become a doctor, engineers and/or pilots. Some can be teachers, mountaineers, painters and many more things. Let them choose what they want to be. Be a parent whom they can trust. Let them carve niche for themselves rather than ending their lives in despair. End of their life will bring only remorse and no amount of guilt will ever bring them back.